Focus Creates Your Reality: Affirmations

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So I feel like it’s been months since I last posted even though it’s only been a week! What a week! I feel like the Universe was like, let’s help you test your statements of the last post, ‘can you stay focused on the positive and be grateful?’ Man was it hard! But thankfully I have a lot of tips, tricks, and tools to keep me on track… and an awesome husband and great friends too. So I am very thankful of that.

One of the tools I mentioned briefly at the end of the last post was “Saying Affirmations”. Which if you have never heard of affirmations or maybe heard but have no idea what anyone is talking about: it’s a way to help yourself reprogram your brain just by using a simple phrase. Basically you say a statement over and over until, one day it’s true! We don’t always realize that we are saying affirmations all the time, but a lot of the times they aren’t positive ones. It’s a little more complicated than just waking up and saying “hey I want this to be awesome now, make it happen self!” Let me explain…

Let’s begin by what affirmations even are…

I found a great blog post that discussed this:

But here is the Cliff notes version in case you are just too busy to click on that link above…

“In short, positive affirmations are statements that are spoken and often repeated to encourage and uplift the person speaking them…. A positive affirmation is actually the language of the brain.”

Each affirmation to have the most effect on our thoughts should have three elements as follows:

“1)…[be] in present tense… “

“2) …only include positive words…”

“3)…affirmations are spoken as statements of fact and truth [such as] statements that contain words like ‘am’ and ‘do’.”

Now, affirmations do not fix all. Think of yourself as a house, you could be one that just needs some general maintenance (even the newest of houses will have issues that arise) or you could be a house that needs a complete overhaul, or anywhere in between. To do your household repairs, you need a big toolbox filled with tools. A hammer won’t fix everything. Sometimes you’ll need a wrench, a screw driver, or even pliers. So affirmations may work for you immediately or it may take a lot of time. We are all different houses with different cracks and issues. So though I HIGHLY recommend affirmations, they are NOT a substitute for any other needed action… you may need to say them along with going to a therapist, journaling, exercising, changing your diet, doing research, doing some kind of art, etc.

Overall I find them very helpful. Even when I find I have trouble saying one. I know that if I initially buck against a particular affirmation and mentally say, “I can’t say that” that there’s something deeper to investigate. It helps open the conversation with myself to say “Well why can’t I say that? What do I innately believe without my realizing it? Is there something deeper here? How is this limiting me from progressing to who I want to be or what I desire?”  (These are called limiting beliefs, to learn a bit more about them I would suggest reading “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay.)

Also, a lot of times, affirmations help but you might not notice it because it helped in a different way than how you pictured.  Once again if you are laser focused on a particular outcome you might miss the positive outcomes that are taking place. So even deep within your subconscious mind and phraseology and terminology you use for your thoughts, whether you are consciously aware of them or not shape your perceived reality. If you are always thinking ” I always feel tired” or “I always fail and do everything wrong” you are messing with your brain to say “guess I’m always tired and can’t achieve my dreams let’s go sleep/eat/drink/curse out our self made problem.” … It’s one thing to make the assessment of being tired in the moment or notice that you’ve been tired, it’s another to tell your brain that this is your constant state of being. So with positive affirmations, in many ways, it’s the brain reprogramming equivalent to the statement, “Fake it until you make it”.

It’s much like learning to play a game, do a sport, or play an instrument. Very few of us can just start and be awesome at it, but you keep practicing it, until you are good at it. Same goes for affirmations, at first you might be like this is ridiculous but commit to ones that resonate with where you want to be in your life and then you repeat them in the mirror, to yourself.

You can start any time. You can say them just in your head or out loud. (I recommend if you are in public you might want to say them in your head.) You can say them while writing them. You can say them and look in the mirror (Louise Hay calls this mirror work and highly recommends it, sometimes it may be a little ‘intense’ though, especially when you realize you are having trouble saying the affirmation whilst looking into your own eyes.)

Examples of ineffective  and NOT good affirmations: 🙁

I could improve on blank

I can’t think about blank anymore

I will become Blank

I used to blank but now I will blank

HE, SHE, THEY will change

These are technically not bad statements but they aren’t the brain’s language to change your focus.

There is A LOT of science on this which the blog post I linked above references. But the simplest version is that the brain really only thinks in this moment, everything is within that framework and with that the brain does process negative terminology but it is in conflict with the positive statement. It’s much like when someone says “don’t think of a blue horse” and your brain can’t help but create the image of a blue horse before it takes it away. So the brain is focused on a programmed belief that is in present tense and a lot of which formulated when we were children. (Those limiting beliefs again.) So example if you always saw your parents or caregivers fight over money, little you and your brain might have created the belief that ‘money is bad because it causes people to be mad and fight’… because of this you might self sabotage, you might fear money, you may think people with a lot of money are always mean. You probably don’t think this on the surface but deep down it is your programmed “it is” “I am” statement that is in control. Here’s your chance to reprogram it! So even though that happened long ago the brain acts as though its still the truth now. This is why when we focus on past issues or worry about the future, we feel those issues as though they are happening now. Because ultimately the brain is in the now, despite our thoughts being focused elsewhere.

However on to the positive!!!!

Here are some affirmations to get you started. It is most helpful to only work on one or two at a time or choose maybe one a week, one a day, or one a month… Just try not to overwhelm and confuse yourself!

The best starters: 🤩

I am healthy

I am loved

I love myself

I have my dream job

I am living my best life

I make decisions easily

I radiate success

Life is good and so it is

I see beauty in everything


Some other good ones, that are a touch more advanced:

I trust the process of life

I am deeply fulfilled by all that I do

I prosper wherever I turn

I am divinely guided and protected at all times

Whatever I need to know is revealed to me at exactly the right time

My happy thoughts help create my healthy body

I listen with love to my body’s messages

I am healthy, whole, and complete

Wellness is the natural state of my body I am in perfect health

I am very thankful for all the love in my life I find it everywhere

I trust my intuition I am willing to listen to that still small voice within

I attract only healthy relationships I am always treated well

I release all drama from my life

I balance my life between work rest and play

I return to the basics of life: forgiveness, courage, gratitude, love, and humor.

I am in charge; I now take my power back

I trust the universe to help me see the good in everything and in everyone

I love my family members just as they are, I do not try to change anyone

I love and approve of myself

I further my career with every action I take

My job brings me financial abundance

My boss values the work I do

I spend time with positive energetic people

I have courage to live my dreams

I release all negative thoughts of the past and all worries about the future

I only speak positively about those in my world. Negativity has no part in my life

My life gets better all the time

My income is constantly increasing

It is now safe for me to release all of my childhood traumas and move into love

I deserve all that is good

I attract new clients every day

My enthusiasm is contagious

My workplace is peaceful and full of love

I take care of my body and exercise every day

My body is healthy and full of energy

I wake up happy and excited every single day

Each day of my life is filled with joy and love

I see others as good people who are trying their best

I instantly manifest my desires

My life is full of magic and serendipity

For some more affirmations I recommend checking out:

YOU GOT THIS! –Heather

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